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Old World Values in the Age of 24/7
By Maura Conlon-McIvor
I was Maura long before my birth. My father, a New York-born FBI agent, had savored the name since first hearing it in law school, hoping someday to bequeath it upon a daughter. Maura was a fine gift, but not always straightforward. "Nice meeting you, Mona. Is that Hawaiian?" People had a hard time with my name, and when I was young I never had the nerve to correct them.
We lived about a 40-minute drive from Hollywood, and 15-minutes to Disneyland. I didn't measure the exact miles because when you're growing up near the happiest place on earth and also the town where movies are made, who wants to hear that Maura is Irish for Mary? Why bother mentioning the Old World when I'm cycling to the noon showing of The Son of Flubber? Ireland was on some distant map.
That is, until my Irish-born grandmother, Molly, arrived from New York City. Chuckling with her Celtic brogue, she handed me a beautifully illustrated children's book about her homeland. I can still see my first images of leprechauns, rainbows, pots of gold, double-decker buses, little girls with red hair, and shamrocks. I suspected the thrills in Ireland surpassed every highly coveted "E" ticket ride at Disneyland, and that the doors to this emerald kingdom didn't close at midnight.
My grandmother, I learned, wasn't the fairy tale sort who lived in a shoe with some old man Hubbard. She was a County Clare-born farm girl who immigrated to the Bronx, the eldest of several children, and part of a New York-based clan -- an Irish clan -- a concept foreign to our sun-kissed housing tract. My parents added their own mysterious fuel: around our house, New York was never called New York, but back home. It didn't matter that my parents had lived in California for decades, and raised five kids there.
Life took an interesting turn when I traveled to New York as a teenager. No longer was I spelling my name after introductions. I wasn't Laura, or Mona the Hawaiian, but a veritable Irish-American princess. I visited relations in Manhattan, Queens, and Brooklyn, startled and fascinated to meet others with equally Celtic names.
I met young girls who did Irish step dance, and I read Irish newspapers actually published in Manhattan. I listened to my relatives sing Irish songs well into the night, wistful as they told tales about the St. Patrick's Day parade, and the many years they've marched through rain, sleet, sun or snow. My Uncle Ed, a tall Catholic priest from Brooklyn, drove me in his Checker cab throughout New York, pointing out the Irish neighborhoods, and the places where my grandparents were reared, regaling me with clan history.
I learned about my Irish-American grandfather, Michael Hogan, who with an eighth grade education, worked as a stereographer for the old New York World-Telegraph and later the Post. Perhaps my grandfather chose the newspaper business because he loved words. By all accounts, he was a gregarious storyteller. Our last photograph of him was taken on his final trip to California, which coincided with St. Patrick's Day. In Los Angeles, we got to be Irish every March 17th. The icing on our cupcakes turned green with the help of food coloring, and the beef was corned, not roast. In New York, however, it seemed you could be Irish everyday.
Years later I packed my bags, moved to Manhattan, and found a job, like my grandfather, in the publishing business. I visited the old neighborhoods, attended Irish cultural events, dined at the Pig and Whistle, always enthusiastic to discover the waiter's county of origin. These connections to the Old World made my world complete. In this age of rootless, wireless 24/7, such moments slow time. With a smile on our face, we are whisked home.
Copyright © 2005, Maura Conlon-McIvor, bestselling author of She’s All Eyes: Memoirs of an Irish-American Daughter. Published by Warner Books, 2005. For inquiries about speaking engagements, please contact: www.MauraConlon.com
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